Do you believe that we are responsible for other people's feelings? If others tell us we hurt them, is it true? Can we really hurt others by simply being ourselves…
What is about someone holding back their thoughts and feelings that frustrates us so much? We ask ourselves; ‘why don’t they share what is happening for them and what do they want or don’t want from us?’ We wonder what is prompting them to reply with one-word answers acting as if they can hardly wait to run out of the room and away from our conversation…
What if things had gone differently in the past – would we feel better now? ‘What If’ is a question that many of us ask ourselves on a regular basis when we are feeling the negative emotion of regret. It’s like our ego is trying to solve an issue from the past to distract us from why we are feeling the negative emotion in the first place…
Do you believe we can choose to feel good in any moment? Most of us don't. We have been taught to respond to what’s right in front of us and feel the feelings that go with that experience. If the experience is something we want, we feel good. If its something we don't want, we feel bad....
Do you believe that worrying helps? That it makes a difference in what happens to us or those we care about? Perhaps you learned that worrying was a sign of caring, love or loyalty? Maybe you learned that worrying is like praying... the more you do it, the better the odds of a good outcome?
Why do we rely on our logic alone to decide our best course of action? We are told that emotions are not ‘appropriate’ in the workplace, and our left-brain, linear, dualistic thinking is the best problem- solving approach to success. If that is so, then where does passion come in? Trust? Knowing that others have your back…
Why is it that some people always get the attention, encouragement and acknowledgement necessary for success and others don’t…
How do we keep from getting defensive or shutting down when others are reacting or acting badly? Some of us get embarrassed and feel the other person’s behavior is a direct reflection on us. We fear for our own reputation/credibility by association.
Why do we defend our beliefs so strongly even when they don’t serve us? If we look through history, we can see that many, many people defended their viewpoint – even to the death. Why do we do this?
If beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking until they become true for us, we could create a belief about anything we want—right? Then why do we keep thinking thoughts about what we DON'T want…
Why do we use the word should in our language? The dictionary definition of should is “used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions.” We use the word should in our daily lives to make ourselves and others wrong about how we feel, what we want, and how we see the world…
Who do we think is worthy of our trust? What is it that makes someone ‘trustworthy’ to us? What about the times that someone didn’t come through for us when we needed them to? Can someone be completely ‘trustworthy’ to us? Read more to find out...