Most of us think anger is a problem - and it can be if we are not in right relationship to the energy of anger. In our western culture, few of us were taught how to allow and express our anger - or any emotions - in a healthy and responsible ways...
What keeps us from asking for help when we need it? So many of us have learned we have to do everything ourselves – how did that happen? As humans, we hate to feel helpless and yet so many of us learned that we could only get what we needed from other people which can have us feel dependent and out of control...
Why do so many of us believe that WORK is a four-letter word? When did our 'feelings' about work become so negative and filled with powerlessness and obligation? Many of us can hardly wait until it's Friday, time for vacation, or holiday time - working just to enjoy our non-work time!
Do you believe that we are responsible for other people's reactions to us? If others tell us we hurt them, is it true? Can we really hurt others by simply being ourselves? Many of us have learned that it's our job to make sure others feel OK...
What do you believe relationships are for? Are they just to procreate? To drive us crazy? To provide a source of love and happiness? What if relationships are here to help us grow into who we really are...
Do you believe that you can succeed? If you don't, you won't. It's that simple. How do you feel when you think about your success? Excited? Eager? Depressed? Tired? Terrified? Even the smallest amount of ambivalence...
What are your beliefs around success? Do you believe that success only happens under certain conditions? Do we have to work hard, or have a special talent, or be smarter, faster or bolder than others? Is success just part of the “rat race,” achieved only when
What do our beliefs have to do with health and wellness? Do you see yourself as “healthy?” Or do you fear your body breaking down, becoming weak or in pain from illness? Do you feel fearful when you hear about flu epidemics, or how everyone on the 4th floor has that terrible cold?
A lightbulb went off for me the other day in speaking with a good friend who works from home on the subject of how in-balance or out-of-balance her life felt...
Do you believe that you are your body? Do you believe that the experiences you are having in this physical body are YOU? Many of us do. You can hear it in the language that we use. We say things like "I'm fat,” “I'm tired,” “I’m sad,” “he's attracted to me,” “she thinks I'm cute,” “I hate looking old,” “I am angry,” “he made me disgusted,” “I'm sick and tired of working," etc. These are all statements that say, “I AM my body.”
How do our beliefs live in our bodies? When we hold a limiting belief, our bodies respond to the feelings we generate from that belief. When I feel driven, I get headaches. When I'm fearful, I can develop an ulcer. Longstanding resentments can create cancer. If I feel desperate, I can manifest pneumonia.
Do you believe that when things don't go according to our plan, there is a problem? That something is wrong or that something bad is happening, or will happen, if circumstances don't match what we want or expect? Many of us create havoc and heartache in the pursuit of an outcome we have decided is the only way to what we want. When things don’t turn out as we expect, it can feel like the end of the world.