We have been wired to move towards pleasure and away from pain, so why is it that millions of us are experiencing some kind of pain, emotionally, physically, mentally or spiritually? While life brings us many experiences, and pain is one of them, what is it that keeps us from moving through the pain and into healing rather than pain lingering in our lives ‘…’

Why do we believe the negative stories that our ego offers up every time life doesn’t go as we expect or desire? Stories like: ‘I’m not enough; There is something wrong with me; I can’t do it’. These inner stories are not true, and they generate the negative feelings we have about ourselves, others and the world.  Here is the fascinating part - when we were young, these stories served a critical purpose for many of us…

Why does it feel like the world around us is getting worse? Politically, economically, environmentally, socially, so much is shifting and changing. What if the crumbling of these systems simply reflects the old breaking down while the new is emerging…

How do we end up saying yes to everything and then never have enough time to get it all done? This is a common experience in most corporations these days with shrinking budgets and fewer staff to meet all the expectations required for growth ‘…’

What is it that has us give our inner authority away to others? Instead of focusing on what is best for us, why do we seek out the answers/validation/approval from others assuming they know better than we do‘…’

What is it that allows others to invalidate our experience? When we say we feel sad and are told we should be happy and/or grateful. When we say what we want, and we are told to want something different. When we act on behalf of our own self-care and are made bad or wrong by those around us‘…’

Why do we continue to feel like victims in certain situations and with certain people? Can others make us feel this way, or is it something about us that generates our internal victim experience? Read more to explore where you stand in the Victim/ Accountability loop...

Why is it that we still react like a child to certain situations and people? Why do we still find ourselves fighting back in defense, avoiding or hiding away, or freezing until it’s over like we did as a child? These strong reactions are driven by the unexpressed emotions of our inner-child. Every time our external environment is similar to the environment we experienced in past trauma, our inner child is ‘triggered’ and all of the trapped and unexpressed emotions become ‘fuel’ for our strong reaction to the present-moment experience…

Why do we allow others to give us their negative attention & energy? Why do we keep coming back for more of their criticism, their complaints, their dissatisfaction, and their disappointment even when it doesn’t feel good to us?‘…’

Why do we take what others think, say or do so personally? What is it about us and our belief system that interprets someone else’s actions (or inactions) as a judgement about us? When the boss rolls their eyes, we can see that they are discounting what is being said, yet when we take it personally, we may feel that WE have been discounted, not just the information we are sharing…

Why don’t we use both sides of our brains equally? When did we decide the left side was better than the right? Many of us have heard something about the difference between our left and right brain and how they work and what they are useful for.

Why do we rarely get what we want from others, even when we give our all? What if we could never count on getting what we wanted from others? How would that have us feel...