Why is it that we still react like a child to certain situations and people? Why do we still find ourselves fighting back in defense, avoiding or hiding away, or freezing until it’s over like we did as a child? These strong reactions are driven by the unexpressed emotions of our inner-child. Every time our external environment is similar to the environment we experienced in past trauma, our inner child is ‘triggered’ and all of the trapped and unexpressed emotions become ‘fuel’ for our strong reaction to the present-moment experience. It’s like our cellular memory of the past gets superimposed onto the current experience, even if it doesn’t make sense to our mind. These old emotions are usually tied to experiences where we believed the lies of our ego and the limiting stories it told us about us and the world. Stories that gave us a sense of control when we felt very out of control as small children. ‘I’m not enough, there is something wrong with me, I can’t do it’, are a few of the core limiting stories we learned to believe as the truth about ourselves.
As adults, these limiting stories continue to run in the background until we rise-up inside and become the inner-parent that our inner-child needs to feel safe enough to heal. The inner parent is the one that holds a loving space for the inner child as it feels and expresses its emotions. The inner parent is the one that helps the inner-child know it is innocent and exactly what is needed, exactly as it is, to help it feel safe and loved. It’s the one that helps the inner child see the truth about its past caregivers and steps forward as the replacement parent. It’s the one that stands up to the ego and reminds the inner-child that it is safe, all is well, and you are the one that is caring for it now. Consider your inner-child like a 5-year old. What would you do for that child to help it feel safe, loved and perfect just the way it is? That is what you can do for your own inner-child as the parent it never had.
Becoming the inner-parent is one of the most empowering experiences you can create for yourself. From this safe place inside, your inner child can recognize and release old trapped energy and emotion that is no longer helpful, healing all aspects of your being. As you, connected to your higher self, become the best one to identify and meet your own needs, you can relax when things don’t go as you expect knowing that your inner guidance system has your back while you have your inner child’s back. You can say yes to what you want and no to what you don’t want while building the inner trust it takes to keep that inner child safe and loved.
How can you become the inner-parent today?
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