What is it that allows others to invalidate our experience? When we say we feel sad and are told we should be happy and/or grateful. When we say what we want, and we are told to want something different. When we act on behalf of our own self-care and are made bad or wrong by those around us‘…’

Why do we continue to feel like victims in certain situations and with certain people? Can others make us feel this way, or is it something about us that generates our internal victim experience? Read more to explore where you stand in the Victim/ Accountability loop...

Why is it that we still react like a child to certain situations and people? Why do we still find ourselves fighting back in defense, avoiding or hiding away, or freezing until it’s over like we did as a child? These strong reactions are driven by the unexpressed emotions of our inner-child. Every time our external environment is similar to the environment we experienced in past trauma, our inner child is ‘triggered’ and all of the trapped and unexpressed emotions become ‘fuel’ for our strong reaction to the present-moment experience…

Why do we allow others to give us their negative attention & energy? Why do we keep coming back for more of their criticism, their complaints, their dissatisfaction, and their disappointment even when it doesn’t feel good to us?‘…’

Why do we take what others think, say or do so personally? What is it about us and our belief system that interprets someone else’s actions (or inactions) as a judgement about us? When the boss rolls their eyes, we can see that they are discounting what is being said, yet when we take it personally, we may feel that WE have been discounted, not just the information we are sharing…

Why don’t we use both sides of our brains equally? When did we decide the left side was better than the right? Many of us have heard something about the difference between our left and right brain and how they work and what they are useful for.

Why do we rarely get what we want from others, even when we give our all? What if we could never count on getting what we wanted from others? How would that have us feel...

What has us feel powerless in our efforts to influence others? How can we balance the power between us in key relationships to create the greatest common ground and the greatest common good…

How did we learn that suffering is noble? Where did we learn this and how was it shown to us? How was it reinforced? In the broadest sense, we can see it has been part of our human culture for millennia.

Why is it that so many of us have weak boundaries about what is and isn’t OK with us? Are we aware of what is happening or are we unconscious of our inconsistency? Is it simply a matter of knowing what to do when these boundaries are crossed by others…

Why is it so hard to let go of some relationships? Do we feel like we won’t be whole without the other person in our lives? Perhaps we are concerned what others will think of us if we walk away? Maybe we think we are not capable without the other person and we need them to…