Why do we keep repeating the past over and over in our lives? Most of us made some hard and fast decisions about ourselves and the world in our early lives based on our unique personal experiences. Now, as adults, we continue to project those past decisions into our current reality and into our future expectations based on the meaning we gave them a long time ago. Read that again. Let it sink in. We are repeating the past most of the time to feel safe in the future. Our mind is constantly using our past experiences to predict what is going to happen so we can anticipate any potential negative experiences and navigate them successfully. When we do this intentionally, it is called applied learning. When it happens unconsciously, we are being run by the limiting meaning we gave our past experiences while limiting our possibilities for the future. Joe Dispenza does an amazing job explaining how this happens in this short YouTube Video.

What if the meaning we gave our past experiences wasn’t true? While the old perspective we adopted may have been helpful to survive our past experiences, it limits us now. Especially the meaning we related to ourselves and what we did, or didn’t do, or should have done to make things better, safer or more loving. Most of the meaning we gave our past traumas is based on the idea that the experience that traumatized us was somehow our fault. We were not enough in some way, or something was wrong with us, or we couldn’t do it. This meaning was a survival technique that our ego used to help keep us safe and protected. Unfortunately, it’s based on a lie. The truth is that we were just fine at the time of our traumas. Innocent and perfect just the way we were in our unique human expression and experience. It was our caregivers that were at fault in their unconsciousness or in their inability to meet our needs at the time – not us. With this new perspective, we can reframe our past experiences knowing that while others did the best they could at the time, they were unable to meet our needs, and the old meaning we created was a way to manage the pain we felt in that disconnected state, out of control, unable to help ourselves, and unable to receive the help we needed. That is no longer the case.

What if you are exactly what is needed, exactly as you are in every situation in your life? That your unique expression and experience is part of the larger wholistic system we are all interconnectedly part of? I’ve gone back in my own past timeline explaining to my inner-child what REALLY happened in some of her traumatic experiences. This has helped her to let go of the limiting belief that SHE was the problem. Now she is feeling relaxed and happy to be just the way she is, knowing that all is well, and informs me regularly of my most self-loving present-moment decisions.

From this new relaxed and happy place, I no longer take things personally as I am no longer triggered in that way. I can see and connect with new possibilities and situations that I wasn’t paying attention to before when I was focused on ‘me’ being the problem. These new situations are based on the truth about me that I’m now embracing, and they are delighting my mind, body, and soul. I’m no longer willing to believe the old limiting story inside that I wasn’t loveable enough for something new to work out for me. That was never the truth. I am and always was, exactly what is needed, exactly as I am.

How can you reframe your past today?

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